Relationship Self-Assessment Tests

Love Languages

Learn more about the theory and discover your own language with our overview page:Understanding the 5 Love Languages.

• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (Audiobook)

  Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman himself narrate his groundbreaking book that has transformed over 10 million relationships. This 4 hour and 48 minute audiobook presents simple yet powerful ideas for expressing and receiving love more effectively. Chapman's warm, conversational style makes complex relationship concepts accessible and practical. The audiobook includes real-life stories, practical applications for each love language, and a personal profile to help you discover your primary love language. Perfect for busy couples who want to strengthen their relationship while commuting or during daily activities.

• The 5 Love Languages® Official Site

  Explore the official website by Dr. Gary Chapman, the originator of the Love Languages concept. This is the primary source for the official quiz, detailed explanations of each language (Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch), and associated resources like books and study guides. Understanding your own and your partner's primary language can be a powerful tool for improving communication and ensuring expressions of affection are truly felt and appreciated. The site offers practical tips for speaking each language.

• Gottman Institute - The Gottman Method

  The Gottman Institute offers research-based approaches to relationship counseling and therapy. Their methods complement Love Languages concepts by focusing on building love maps, nurturing fondness and admiration, and turning toward each other instead of away. Dr. John Gottman's extensive research has identified key predictors of relationship success and provides evidence-based tools for couples seeking to strengthen their bond. Their approach emphasizes emotional attunement, conflict resolution skills, and creating shared meaning in relationships.

• Psychology Today: How to Express Love According to Your Partner's Love Language

  This Psychology Today article provides practical, actionable advice for implementing Love Languages in your relationship. It includes specific examples of how to express each language effectively, common mistakes to avoid, and tips for identifying your partner's primary language through observation. The article bridges the gap between theory and practice, offering real-world scenarios and suggestions that can be implemented immediately to improve relationship satisfaction and emotional connection.

Attachment Theory

Discover your attachment style and learn more on our overview page:Understanding Attachment Styles.

• The Attachment Project

  A comprehensive resource dedicated to attachment theory education and application. The site provides detailed information about the four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized), their origins in early childhood experiences, and their impact on adult relationships. The content includes practical strategies for developing more secure attachment patterns, understanding your triggers, and building healthier relationship dynamics. The resource is particularly valuable for those looking to understand how their past influences their present relationship behaviors.

• Verywell Mind: What Is Attachment Theory?

  This article provides a scientifically grounded introduction to attachment theory, tracing its development from John Bowlby's original work through modern research. It explains the theoretical foundations, describes how attachment patterns form in infancy and childhood, and discusses their lifelong impact on relationships, emotional regulation, and mental health. The piece is written in accessible language while maintaining scientific accuracy, making it an excellent starting point for those new to attachment theory or seeking a thorough refresher.

• Attachment Theory in Action

  This resource focuses on the practical application of attachment theory in daily life and relationships. It offers tools for self-reflection, exercises for couples, and strategies for healing attachment wounds. The site emphasizes that while our early attachment experiences shape us, change and growth are possible throughout life. It provides hope and concrete steps for those seeking to develop "earned security" - the ability to form healthy attachments regardless of early experiences. The content includes case studies, therapeutic approaches, and evidence-based interventions.

Professional Support

• Find a Therapist - Psychology Today

  If your test results or self-reflection reveal areas you'd like to explore more deeply, consider connecting with a licensed mental health professional. Psychology Today's directory allows you to search for therapists by location, specialty, insurance accepted, and treatment approach. Many therapists specialize in relationship counseling, attachment-based therapy, or couples work. Professional guidance can be invaluable for addressing specific relationship challenges, processing attachment wounds, or developing more effective communication patterns with your partner.